Women
in the Quran and the Sunnah
In Islam there is absolutely no difference between men
and women as far as their relationship to Allah is concerned,
as both are promised the same reward for good conduct
and the same punishment for evil conduct. The Qur'an
says:
And
for women are rights over men similar to those of men
over women. (2:226)
The Qur'an, in addressing the believers, often uses
the expression,'believing men and women' to emphasize
the equality of men and women in regard to their respective
duties, rights, virtues and merits. It says:
For
Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for
devout men and women, for true men and women, for men
and women who are patient and constant, for men and
women who humble themselves, for men and women who give
in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and
women who guard their chastity, and for men and women
who engage much in Allah's praise, for them has Allah
prepared forgiveness and great reward. (33:35)
This clearly contradicts the assertion of the Christian
Fathers that women do not possess souls and that they
will exist as sexless beings in the next life. The Qur'an
says that women have souls in exactly the same way as
men and will enter Paradise if they do good :
Enter
into Paradise, you and your wives, with delight. (43:70)
Who so does that which is right, and believes, whether
male or female, him or her will We quicken to happy
life. (16:97)
The
Qur'an admonishes those men who oppress or ill-treat
women:
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women
against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness,
that you may take away part of the dowry you have given
them - except when they have become guilty of open lewdness.
On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness
and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be
that you dislike something and Allah will bring about
through it a great deal of good. (4:19)
Considering the fact that before the advent of Islam
the pagan Arabs used to bury their female children alive,
make women dance naked in the vicinity of the Ka'ba
during their annual fairs, and treat women as mere chattels
and objects of sexual pleasure possessing no rights
or position whatsoever, these teachings of the Noble
Qur'an were revolutionary. Unlike other religions, which
regarded women as being possessed of inherent sin and
wickedness and men as being possessed of inherent virtue
and nobility, Islam regards men and women as being of
the same essence created from a single soul. The Qur'an
declares:
O
mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you
from a single person, created, of like nature, his mate,
and from this pair scattered (like seeds) countless
men and women. Reverence Allah, through Whom you demand
your mutual (rights), and reverence the wombs (that
bore you); for Allah ever watches over you. (4:1)
The Prophet of Islam (peace be upon him) said, "Women
are the twin halves of men." The Qur'an emphasizes
the essential unity of men and women in a most beautiful
simile:
They
(your wives) are your garment and you are a garment
for them. (2:187)
Just as a garment hides our nakedness, so do husband
and wife, by entering into the relationship of marriage,
secure each other's chastity. The garment gives comfort
to the body; so does the husband find comfort in his
wife's company and she in his. "The garment is
the grace, the beauty, the embellishment of the body,
so too are wives to their husbands as their husbands
are to them." Islam does not consider woman "an
instrument of the Devil", but rather the Qur'an
calls her muhsana - a fortress against Satan because
a good woman, by marrying a man, helps him keep to the
path of rectitude in his life. It is for this reason
that marriage was considered by the Prophet Muhammad
(peace be upon him) as a most virtuous act. He said:
"When a man marries, he has completed one half
of his religion." He enjoined matrimony on Muslims
by saying: "Marriage is part of my way and whoever
keeps away from my way is not from me (i.e. is not my
follower)." The Qur'an has given the raison d'être
of marriage in the following words:
And
among His signs is this, that He has created for you
mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity
with them; and He has put love and mercy between you.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was full of
praise for virtuous and chaste women. He said:
"The
world and all things in the world are precious but the
most precious thing in the world is a virtuous woman.
He once told the future khalif, 'Umar: "Shall I
not inform you about the best treasure a man can hoard?
It is a virtuous wife who pleases him whenever he looks
towards her, and who guards herself when he is absent
from her."
On other occasions the Prophet said:
"The
best property a man can have is a remembering tongue
(about Allah), a grateful heart and a believing wife
who helps him in his faith." And again: "The
world, the whole of it, is a commodity and the best
of the commodities of the world is a virtuous wife."
Before the advent of Islam women were often treated
worse than animals. The Prophet wanted to put a stop
to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards
them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect
of women." And: "The best of you are they
who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim
must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with
one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one
that is good." And:"The more civil and kind
a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he
is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in
enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when
he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy
at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four
thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for
the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered
those present, and through them all those Muslims who
were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards
women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married
them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies
lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights)
over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect
of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality.
She can make any contract or bequest in her own name.
She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother,
as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect
liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of
pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against
their female children whom they used to bury alive.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally
opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting
their female children would act as a screen for them
against the fire of Hell:
It
is narrated by the Prophet's wife, 'A'isha, that a woman
entered her house with two of her daughters. She asked
for charity but 'A'isha could not find anything except
a date, which was given to her. The woman divided it
between her two daughters and did not eat any herself.
Then she got up and left. When the Prophet (peace be
upon him) came to the house, 'A'isha told him about
what had happened and he declared that when the woman
was brought to account (on the Day of Judgment) about
her two daughters they would act as a screen for her
from the fires of Hell.
The worst calamity for a woman is when her husband passes
away and, as a widow, the responsibility of maintaining
the children falls upon her. In the Eastern World, where
a woman does not always go out to earn her living, the
problems of widowhood are indescribable. The Prophet
Muhammad (peace be upon him) upheld the cause of widows.
Most of his wives were widows. In an age when widows
were rarely permitted to remarry, the Prophet encouraged
his followers to marry them. He was always ready to
help widows and exhorted his followers to do the same.
Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet said: "One
who makes efforts (to help) the widow or a poor person
is like a mujahid (warrior) in the path of Allah, or
like one who stands up for prayers in the night and
fasts in the day."
Woman as mother commands great respect in Islam. The
Noble Qur'an speaks of the rights of the mother in a
number of verses. It enjoins Muslims to show respect
to their mothers and serve them well even if they are
still unbelievers. The Prophet states emphatically that
the rights of the mother are paramount. Abu Hurairah
reported that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace
be upon him) and asked: "O Messenger of Allah,
who is the person who has the greatest right on me with
regards to kindness and attention?" He replied,
"Your mother." "Then who?" He replied,
"Your mother." "Then who?" He replied,
"Your mother." "Then who?" He replied,
"Your father."
In
another tradition, the Prophet advised a believer not
to join the war against the Quraish in defense of Islam,
but to look after his mother, saying that his service
to his mother would be a cause of his salvation. Mu'awiyah,
the son of Jahimah, reported that Jahimah came to the
Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, " Messenger
of Allah! I want to join the fighting (in the path of
Allah) and I have come to seek your advice." He
said, "Then remain in your mother's service, because
Paradise is under her feet."
The
Prophet's followers accepted his teachings and brought
about a revolution in their social attitude towards
women. They no longer considered women as a mere chattels,
but as an integral part of society. For the first time
women were given the right to have a share in inheritance.
In the new social climate, women rediscovered themselves
and became highly active members of society rendering
useful service during the wars which the pagan Arabs
forced on the emerging Muslim umma. They carried provisions
for the soldiers, nursed them, and even fought alongside
them if it was necessary. It became a common sight to
see women helping their husbands in the fields, carrying
on trade and business independently, and going out of
their homes to satisfy their needs.
'A'isha
reported that Saudah bint Zam'ah went out one night.
'Umar saw her and recognized her and said, "By
God, O Saudah, why do you not hide yourself from us?"
She went back to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and
told him about it while he was having supper in her
room, and he said, "It is permitted by Allah for
you to go out for your needs." The predominant
idea in the teachings of Islam with regard to men and
women is that a husband and wife should be full-fledged
partners in making their home a happy and prosperous
place, that they should be loyal and faithful to one
another, and genuinely interested in each other's welfare
and the welfare of their children. A woman is expected
to exercise a humanizing influence over her husband
and to soften the sternness inherent in his nature.
A man is enjoined to educate the women in his care so
that they cultivate the qualities in which they, by
their very nature, excel.
These
aspects were much emphasized by the Prophet (peace be
upon him). He exhorted men to marry women of piety and
women to be faithful to their husbands and kind to their
children. He said:
"Among
my followers the best of men are those who are best
to their wives, and the best of women are those who
are best to their husbands. To each of such women is
set down a reward equivalent to the reward of a thousand
martyrs. Among my followers, again, the best of women
are those who assist their husbands in their work, and
love them dearly for everything, save what is a transgression
of Allah's laws."
Once Mu'awiyah asked the Prophet (peace be upon him),
"What are the rights that a wife has over her husband?"
The Prophet replied, " Feed her when you take your
food, give her clothes to wear when you wear clothes,
refrain from giving her a slap on the face or abusing
her, and do not separate from your wife, except within
the house." Once a woman came to the Prophet with
a complaint against her husband. He told her: "There
is no woman who removes something to replace it in its
proper place, with a view to tidying her husband's house,
but that Allah sets it down as a virtue for her. Nor
is there a man who walks with his wife hand-in-hand,
but that Allah sets it down as a virtue for him; and
if he puts his arm round her shoulder in love, his virtue
is increased tenfold." Once he was heard praising
the women of the tribe of Quraish, "...because
they are the kindest to their children while they are
infants and because they keep a careful watch over the
belongings of their husbands."
The Shari'ah regards women as the spiritual and intellectual
equals of men. The main distinction it makes between
them is in the physical realm based on the equitable
principle of fair division of labor. It allots the more
strenuous work to the man and makes him responsible
for the maintenance of the family. It allots the work
of managing the home and the upbringing and training
of children to the woman, work which has the greatest
importance in the task of building a healthy and prosperous
society.
It
is a fact, however, that sound administration within
the domestic field is impossible without a unified policy.
For this reason the Shari'ah requires a man, as head
of the family, to consult with his family and then to
have the final say in decisions concerning it. In doing
so he must not abuse his prerogative to cause any injury
to his wife. Any transgression of this principle involves
for him the risk of losing the favor of Allah, because
his wife is not his subordinate but she is, to use the
words of the Prophet (peace be upon him), 'the queen
of her house', and this is the position a true believer
is expected to give his wife. In contrast to these enlightened
teachings of Islam in respect of women, Western talk
of women's liberation or emancipation is actually a
disguised form of exploitation of her body, deprivation
of her honor, and degradation of her soul!