Kissing is about as personal a pastime as there is,and hence each person will have their own style,philosophies, and 'moves.' At the same time, kissing is an Exercise in Compromise. Any kisser who is unwilling to adjust to their  partner is... well... not a very good kisser. Good kissing is all about finding middle ground (and the negotiations can be a heck of a lot of fun!) No one is a good kisser by themselves  kissing requires coopera- tion and teamwork from Both People.As soon as you forget that, you risk falling to the Dark Side of Kissing. 

Setting and situation also have a great deal to do with successful kissing, and adjus tments must be made in regards to these important elements. Only You can judge the various external and internal factors which affect what kind of kissing you are doing. Ignore them at your own risk... for a good kisser takes EVERYTHING into consideration.The best thing to remember when starting to kiss is to keep things simple. There is really no need to get carried away with strange and exotic techniques, nibbling, biting, groping, etc... especially when you're just starting out. A kiss is generally great no matter how basic,and every thing else just add things that can go wrong. Of course, everything else definitely has its place (and how!)... but it's really best to START SIMPLE.

Head movement is definitely one of themore subtle aspects of successful kissing,but it can really add a great deal to the experience. Coordinating all the different moving parts of a kiss can seem pretty overwhelming, and it may help to you only think about one at a time. However, a really good kisser manages to get every thing moving at the same time (lips, tongue, head, teeth) without any seeming effort. Each of these aspects should complement each other, allowing the kiss to be playful or passionate, coy or deman- ding, silly or serious at a moment notice.Of course, like everythinhing else, moderation generally the key to success Frantic head bobbing will only frighten and confuse your partner, which can lead to an unsuccessful kissing experien- ce. "I'm a really sensual guy who's really into this kiss so let's have sex now" overdone head movement. usually directly followed by a clumsy breast grope. This just looks silly,and it breaks one of our cardinal rules of kissing.The best idea is generally keep movement constrained,espe- cially at the beginning of a kiss ( the beginning of your kissing career) a little can go a long way.Remember every thing should work together like a symphony, with you as the conductor.Coordination is the key.

The tempo, or 'speed' of a kiss can greatly affect the overall character of the kiss. From intense need to slow enjoyment, it's all dictated by tempo. Generally speaking, the slower a kiss, the more romantic it is,while faster kisses tend to be more passionate. Changing tempo is vital aspect of good kissing... changing tempo smoothly and appropriately is a sign of a GOOD KISSER.When starting a kiss, the rule of thumb isto start slow. This just makes sense, and it lets everyone get used to the dynamics of that particular kiss. A slow start is a good introduction... and sometimes the kiss should just stay slow. Jumping into rapid tongue maneuvers can scare your partner,and is rude to boot. Athletes always warm up before moving onto serious play...
Why should kissing be any different?
As the kiss gains intensity, though, the tempo should generally increase. This increase should be fairly gradual, and correspond to your partner's feedback. Ifthey are obviously enjoying it, and seem to want to accelerate the whole experience, then up the tempo! Kiss a bit harder and faster, use your tongue a little more assertively... all the time gauging your partner's response. If they respond in kind,then you're on the right track.
                A very important thing to learn about kissing tempo is that variety is the spice of life. Kisses that stay the same speed throughout get boring (if you can believe a boring kiss!)... so keep things interesting. If you've got a fast a furious kiss going on, don't be afraid to slow it down a bit. Gently lick or nibble your partner's lips, kiss the corners of their mouth, or just gently brush your lips together. Once things are slow, speed them back up!.
              The contrast is the important thing...tender kisses seem even more tender if they immediately follow a good tonsil lashing, and vice versa. Be careful not to go overboard with speed changes, but don't be afraid of them either. Variety Is the spice of life... and the spice of kissing.

Spend part or all of a kissing session concentrating on just your lips... no tongues allowed. Slowly slide your lips together, enjoying the subtle feeling of each other's skin.Lick, nibble, kiss each other's mouths... go slow, and really enjoy the sensations. This exercise should make you more aware of your lips,and will add a new layer to your kissing experience.own style, philosophies, and 'moves.' At the same time, kissing is an Exercise in Compromise. Any kisser who is unwilling to adjust to their  partner is... well... not a very good kisser. Good kissing is all about finding middle ground.One good way to help yourselves concentrateon the kiss is to try to read each other's thoughts (and not in a neurotic, annoying way) while kissing. Really try to see into your partner's mind, and attempt to make a connection. Don't necessarily expect to pick up images of the dog they had when they were three years old, but rather use this as a way to really concentrate on yourpartner and the kiss.

The Lips Talking about simple... where else to start than... The Lips! The most basic element of any kiss, in fact vital andinsepara- ble from the act itself. There is no kissing without lips (ask your local chickens), so don't neglect them! On a physical level, take care of your lips. Chapped lips (while a great Custom E-kiss) are no fun at all to kiss. The same goes for rough, scabbed, or otherwise
poor condition lips. Most of these conditions can be avoided through the use of a simple lip balm... find one that suits your preferences. Depending on what you like,you can get different flavors, varying degree of healing and therapy ,SPF (sunscreen) protection... the choices are endless.Use your chosen balm regularly, not just when you are expect- ing some kissing... it's just a good idea to take care of you- rself. Also try to avoid applying balm directly before kissing... slimy lips can be a turn off.Just make sure it's all absorbed before getting down to business... and your lips will be soft, supple, and oh-so- kissable. Once your lips are kissable, and you are in fact kissing... you still can't neglect them! .The lips are the most basic and important element of kissing, and should be used to the best of their ability. Concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips, how your lips match up, and how you're moving them. This oft-overlooked element can add some real zing to your kissing. Just try to remember that the tongue is not the be-all and end-all of kissing...

Dont Neglect your Lips

Lots of great kisses are, in fact, all lips. Ever since the French pulled a Microsoft on the kissing market, tongues have gotten all the attention. Many terrible kissing experie- nces are a direct result of this over-reliance (and unskilled use of) the tongue. Certainly the tongue is important to kissing... after all, what beats a really good deep french kiss? But tongue use is some- thing best eased into... and can easily be overdone. Even really good tongue kisses can benefit from some variety... usually of the lip-centered kind. Take a break from tongue lashing to nibble, caress,lick, and gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good they feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better. Your lips the building blocks of great kissing. use them wisely (and often!).

When kissing, there is always one simple rule that must be obeyed: Remember to breathe!!! Oxygen, you may have noticed,plays a fairly important part in this whole "living" thing, so it probably shouldn't be neglected. Really good kisses,howe- ver, have the tendency to make one forget all that, as you'd rather keep kissing than take a break for stupid air. Rest assured, breathe a little now, and your kissing will go on a lot longer.
               The actual mechanics of breathing during kissing are up to various interpretations.Sometimes you can just rely on the old nose to do its duty, and breath through that.Sometimes (cold and flu season) For example that's just not possible. Then it's time to get creative. As with everything else,it works out best if you can work it into the flow of the kiss.
               This is a great opportunity to give some feedback while taking care of your oxygen needs. Just take a break to pant a bit, or kiss their neck, or do a little 'lip dancing'.. anything to break the seal of a deep kiss and fill those lungs. Breathing is important, so don't forget it.often!).

This aspect of kissing focuses on the age-old debate:
What do I look at Eyes?
open or closed?
Do I look like a fish?
Sadly, we can't really give you a definitive answer on this one. We do find it best to keep your eyes open at least while 'going in' for the kiss, to avoid unpleasant collisions or total misses. Though you can often play these off with lines like "No baby, I really meant to kiss your eyebrow" it's generally best to at least try to hit the lips. Once engaged, however, general decorum usually calls for closed eyes, at least for starters.
                    You may find that eyes closed really help you concentrate on other things, like the kiss itself (see Mindset).Eyes open is also a very viable option,however, and should not be dismissed out of hand. Open eyes may just be a way to sneak a peek at your kissing partner, whether to gauge their reaction, reassure yourself that yes, they really ARE that good looking, or any other reconnaissance.
               Eyes full open can also be intense, in sort of a spiritual connec- tion, windows-to-the-soul sorta way. Like every other aspect of kissing, you'll have to find your own style...but for starters, eyes closed generally helps with precision and concentration, two of the most important aspects for new kissers.

Kissing, as with most mouth-related past times, can be a water sport. Saliva isobviously inseparable from the mouth, so you've gotta learn to deal with it. And likemany other aspects of kissing, spit control treads a fine line between ecstasy and awfulness. The one issue that comes uprepeatedly on accounts of bad kisses is saliva control... or lack thereof.
            So get a hold of your spit!.A good kiss should definitely be a little moist... nothing grows in the desert! An ofcourse, if you're using your tongue at all, the kiss WILL be somewhat wet. This is fine.The trouble lies when "a little " turns into a torrent".
          Very few people like to be doused with drool... especially early on in the kissing experience. So start fairly dry, getting a bit wetter as the kiss progresses.If you feel like there's entirely too much drool happening, just swallow some of it.Yes, you will swallow some of your partner's saliva. Sorry, but that's all part of kissing.